January 2010

Hello All,

Where can I begin?  All of you are in our hearts this Christmas for the most wonderful gift we have ever received.  Jon is doing very well and adjusting better than we could have ever hoped.  I know it is early in his transition, but he has back the old confidence and love of life I remember from years ago.  He is actively looking for a job, just passed his road test, has his schedule for school and is showing responsibility in so many different ways.  It is a total turnaround – we are so grateful.

He and John R. are together daily – right now they are at 7:30 Mass.  They are great supports for each other.  They spend a lot of time with each other’s families and are delightful to have around.

We were driving in the car the other day and I said to Jon  - life is good right now, isn’t it – and of course he answered yes.  I then asked him how long it had been since life was this good.  His reply, “Never”.

Robin and Mike – we are sorry to have missed you and did not get an opportunity to say good bye.  Back in July when Jon had “walked” you were such great support to us.  You were angels from heaven holding our hands.  At that time, through our tears, we could never imagine this day, but you were always hopeful and for all you have done we can never thank you enough.

Panava, your name comes up frequently – a particular song on the radio becomes a “Panava” song.  Your spirit and smile lights up any room.  You have always been special to Jon –tough and loving in a special way that got through to him.

Tommy, we thought we would have time to play golf and spend more time with you and Jon – where did the 18 months go?  I thought you were too tough on him in the beginning, but you knew better than us what he needed.  You are a special person to us and to him.

Myron, you have taught Jon how to be happy.  Your stories of overcoming adversities had a big impact on Jon.  You are among those he considers having had a huge influence on his behavior.

Renee, I clearly remember our last family meeting when you gave Jon advice on how to live post The Family Foundation School.  He has taken your advice and is trying hard to stay away from negative influences and not trying to “save” anyone yet.  We are here to remind him of your advice whenever necessary.

Fr. Steven – you showed him the way to his higher power.  When he speaks of this he says that Jesus Christ is his higher power.  His spirituality has been the bedrock of his renewal.  He holds his anger under control through prayer that he learned from you.  When he left for FFS he did not believe in God.  I am convinced you were sent by our Lord to redirect our son.  You are indeed a special person and Family School is blessed to have you.

This is not good bye as Dave and I plan to continue our involvement with FFS.  Iris and Jeff, you were with us in the beginning and we thank you for all your support of Jon and for us.  Please contact us as alumni parents as we would be honored to return to FFS to help out.  Also, feel free to use our names as references.  If there is anything else you need, please let us know.

I recognize that we are early in our transition journey – that there will be ups and downs.  As everyone says on 12&12, these kids have their FFS toolbox to fall back on.  I go into 2010 with optimism and positive energy.  Dave and I both learned so much through FFS – the 12 Steps, FA Meetings.  We are eternally grateful for not only the positive changes FFS has had on our son, but also the positive changes it has had on both our lives and our relationship.

With love to all of you and the rest of the outstanding staff at FFS. Have a very Merry Christmas and a happy, healthy and blessed New Year!

Sherry and David H.